- I always thought we only had two choices in our lives when it came to pizza crust- thin and crispy, or thick and doughy. How was I to have known there could be a crust in this world that was thin and doughy? Holy of holies! Thin, doughy, strong, gummy, yummy, chewy, salty pizza paradise. On top, there is a sweet tomato sauce that foams up all bubbly and creamy when it melts the fresh buffalo mozzarella, and the one sprig of basil in the middle of the whole deal somehow infuses the entire pizza with herbal radiance, much the same way one shimmering movie star in the middle of a party brings a contact high of glamour to everyone around her.  --- Pizzeria Da Michele @ Naples, Italy

- Every city has a single word that defines it, that identifies most people who live there. If you could read people's thoughts as they were passing you on the streets of any given place, you would discover that most of them are thinking the same thought. Whatever that majority thought might be-- that is the word of the city. And if your personal word does not match the word of the city, then you don't really belong there.

- In any reference to George Bush, people only nod to Berlusconi, saying " We understand how it is--- we have one, too."

- The Yogis, however, say that human discontentment is a simple case of mistaken identity. We're miserable because we think that we are mere individuals, alone with our fears and flaws and resentments and mortality. We wrongly believe that our limited little ego constitute our whole entire nature. We have failed to recognize our deeper divine character. We don't realize that, somewhere within us all, there does exist a supreme Self who is eternally at peace. That supreme Self is our true identity, universal and divine. Before you realize this truth, say that Yogis, you will always be in despair, a notion nicely expressed in this exasperated line from the Greek stoic philosopher Epictetus: " You bear God within you, poor wretch, and you it not."

- You are , after all, what you think. Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions.

- People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who  brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave.

- Life, if you keep chasing it so hard, will drive you to death. Time--- when pursued like a bandit-- will behave like one; always remaining one county or one room ahead of you, changing its name and hair color to elude you, slipping out the back door o the motel just as you're banging through the lobby with your newest search warrant, leaving only a burning cigarette in the ashtray to taunt you. At some point you have to stop because it won't. You have to admit that you can't catch it. That you're not supposed to catch it. At some point, you gotta let go and sit still and allow contentment to come to you.

- Letting go, of course, is a scary enterprise for those of us who believe that the world revolves only because it has a handle on the top of it which we personally turn, and that if we were to drop this handle for even a moment, well-- that would be the end of the universe. But try dropping it. This is the message I'm getting. Sit quiet for now and cease your relentless participation. Watch what happens. The birds do not crash dead out of the sky in mid-flight, after all. The trees do not wither and die, the rivers do not run red with blood.Life continues to go on. Even the Italian post office will keep limping along, doing its own thing without you--- why are you so sure that your micromanagement of every moment in this whole world is so essential? Why don't you let it be?

- There are only two questions that human beings have ever fought over, all through history. How much do you love? And Who's in charge? Everything elese is somehow manageable. But these two questions of love and control undo us all, trip us up and cause war, grief and suffering. 

- If faith were rational, it wouldn't be- by definition- faith. Fait is a belief in what you cannot see or prove or touch. Faith is walking face-first  and full-speed into the dark. If we truly knew all the answers in advance as to the meaning of life and the nature of God and the destinty of our souls, our belief would not be a leap of faith and it would not be a courageous act of humanity; it would just be ... a prudent insrance policy.

- Destinty , I feel, is also a relationship - a play between divine grace and willful self-effort. Half of it you have no control over; half of it is absolutely in your hands, and your actions will show measurable consequence. Men is neither entirely a puppet of the gods, nor is he entirely the captain of his own destiny; he's a little of both. We gallop through our lives like circus performers balancing on two speeding side-by-side horses- one foot is on the horse called " fate", the other on the horse called "free will".  And the question you have to ask every day is --- which horse is which? Which horse do i Need to stop worrying about because it's not under my control, and which do I need to steer with concentrated effort?

- You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select what clothes you're gonna wear everyday. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That's the only thing you should be trying to control. Drop everything elese but that. Because if you can't learn to master your thinking, you're in deep trouble forever. 

- Universe is a great spinning engine. You want to stay near the core of the thing- right in the hub of the wheel- not out at the edges where all wild whirling takes place, where you can be frayed and crazy. The hub of calmness- that's your heart. That's where God lives within you. So stop looking for answers in the world. Just keep coming back to that center and you'll always find peace.

- Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it, you must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it. If you don't, you will leak away your innate contentment.

- Generally speaking, though, Americans have an inability to relax into sheer pleasure. Ours is an entertainment-seeking nation, but not necessarily a pleasure-seeking one. Americans spend billions to keep themselves amused with everything from porn to theme parks to wars, but that's not exactly the same thing as quiet enjoyment. Americans work harder and longer and more stressful hours than anyone in the world today. But as Luca Spagetti pointed out, we seem to like it. Alarming statistics back this observation up, showing that many Americans feel more happy and fulfilled in their offices than they do in their own homes. Of course, we all inevitably work too hard, then we get burned out and have to spend the whole weekend in our pajamas, eating cereal straight out of the box and staring at the TV in a mild coma ( which is the opposite of working ,yes, but not exactly the same thing as pleasure). Americans don't really know to do nothing. This is the cause of that great sad American stereotype-- the overstressed executive who goes on vacation, but who cannot relax.

- Bel far niente means " the beauty of doing nothing" . The beauty of doing nothing is the goal of all your work, the final accomplishment for which you are most highly congratulated. The more exquisitely and delighfully you can do nothing, the higher your life's achievement. You don't necessarily need to be rich in order to experience this, either. There's another wonderful Italian expression: l'arte d'arrangiarsi- the art of making something out of nothing. The art of turning a few simple ingredients info a feast, or a few gathered friends into a festival. Anyone with a talent for happiness can do this, not only  the rich. 

 1、社会充满着不公平现象，你先不要想去改造它，只能先去适应它。（因为你管不了它）（物竞天择，适者生存--〉这是我加的  > <"）

2、社会不会在意你的自尊，人们看的只是你的成就，在你没有成就以前，切勿过分强调自尊心。（因为你越强调自尊，越对你不利）（自尊心算个P啊~）

3、你只是初中毕业，通常不会成为CEO，直到你把职位拿到手为止。（直到那时人们才不会介意你是初中毕业）

4、当你陷入人为困境时，不要抱怨，你只能默默吸取教训。（你要悄悄的振作起来，重新奋起）

5、你要懂得在没有你以前，你的父母并不像现在那么“乏味”，你应该想到这是他们为了抚养你所付出的巨大代价。（你永远要感恩和孝敬他们才是硬道理）

6、在学校里你考第几己不是那么重要，但进入社会却不然，不管你去哪里都要分等排名。（社会、公司要排名次，是常见的事，要鼓起勇气竞争才对）

7、学校是有节假日，到公司打工则不然，你几乎不能休息，很少能轻松的过节假日的。（否则你职业生涯中，一起跑就比别人落后了）

8、在学校老师会帮助你学习，到公司则不会，如果你认为学校的老师要求你很严格，那是你还没有进入公司打工。因为如果公司对你不严格，你就要失业了。（你必须清醒的认识到在公司要比学校更严格的要求自己）

9、人们都喜欢看电视剧，但你不要看，那不是你的生活，只有在公司工作，你无瑕看电视的。（奉劝你不要看，否则你走上了看电视连续剧之路，而且还看得津津有味，那样你将失去成功的资格）

10、永远不要在背后批评别人，尤其不能批评你的老板无知、刻薄和无能。（因为你这样子的心态将会使你走上坎坷、艰难的成长之路)

......Sorry I've let you down

一个叫做庄雅婷的专栏作家说过大概这样的话。旅行就是从你活腻了的地方，去别人活腻了的地方。如果不是为了去见那个两年来只闻其声不见其人的闺蜜，这个圣诞节和新年大概我们就抱着皮蛋窝在沙发里捧着爆米花反复看Love Actually了吧。

对洛杉矶一直以来的偏见始于15岁。踏出机场那一瞬间我即对这座城市失去了好感。呼啸的汽车，脏乱的马路。长椅上坐的那个面容消瘦眼神迷离吐着眼圈的女人让我把所有能扰乱社会治安的种种都在脑子里面像胶片一样过了一遍。加上当时的我喜欢纽约那样的concrete jungle。由于防震原因，洛杉矶都是矮楼。导游还再三吩咐晚上不要出门，治安很差，downtown很多老墨，还有大毒枭出没。

知道Santa Monica圣塔莫妮卡这个名字源于十年前迷恋的乐队Savage Garden。Darren Hayes笔下冬天的圣塔莫妮卡是懒散悠闲的。人们踩着直排冰鞋不小心就会把你撞倒。在这里不用担心自己将要何去何从，也没有人会在意。那时候不太知道圣塔莫妮卡座落在地球什么地方，不过一定是个像天堂般的好地方。被喻为母亲公路跨越8州的66号公路终止于此。泰坦尼克号Jack和Rose那个关于摩天轮的许诺，也最终沉入冰冷的大海。还有阿甘横穿美国西边的终点也恰好是我们听口琴看夕阳的地方。还有Katy Perry唱的Daisy dukes bikinis on top也就是形容Venice Beach上undeniable 的california girls了。。。。噢噢！还有很多人说老鹰乐队隐喻吸毒后产生幻觉和快感后下榻的Hotel California也座落在Santa Monica Pier附近。

听着《Santa Monica》十年后六月的某一天，看完一场歌剧从DT回家驶于404高速上。车里响起这首歌。他说叫《恋曲L.A》。歌里是这样唱的，

Sunset Boulevard, Santa Monica　 

爱情的地图原来是怎么样  

Above the City, around the highway　 

你就是我的天堂  

Santa Barbara, Pasadena　 

爱情的幻灭原来才是成长 

Above the clouds, round the shadow　 

迷失也是方向…

大概是旋律太美，歌词太动人，当最后一个音节消失的时候，对L.A的10年来的偏见突然烟消云散。恨不得现在就想放下一切飞过去。去寻找那些属于年少爱追梦，熟悉又陌生，曾只在歌词，电影，和别人的故事里才会出现的美丽名字。

另。

我严重提议下次拍旅游景点照片的合照的时候要话那30块钱！50块钱都要花！说到时候自己照自己照。结果，看嘛，还不是搞忘了！

娜姐。这个人说去读美国州立大学。听起多洋气。结果在个水牛城。在这两个与家人团聚的圣诞都是和我还有我朋友一起过的。大家都对这个姐映像深刻，好评如潮。可能不久的以后，我们一起过圣诞的机会就很难得了，希望这两年圣诞是完整你精彩留学生活的一小部分。

丑鬼。你嘛。不多说了。记到我们2012年夏天的约定！现在就开始行动。我要远程监督你！

还有眼哥。。。下盘出门，多带个闹钟，还要个Morning Call的Room Service。双保险上起。我们拖拉还好，iphone程序问题让我们在holiday错过飞机再开通宵夜车这种事情，一次就够了～

这两周多伦多气温骤降 都不给人把秋装从箱子里拿出来夏装收起来的时间 “嗖”一下就降到10几度 。办公室也冷。不停的喝热水。。为了御寒 迷上三哥的Chai tea（中文好像叫拉茶）。其实就是红茶参合各种香料:小豆蔻为主调，其次有丁香，肉桂，黑胡椒壳,茴香，姜，这些 ”暖性“香料。各类衍生物还包括Chai Latte，最近星巴克刚为了万圣节推出的Pumpkin Spice Latte，味道不错。 其实他们现在这么好喝，符合我们的口味，也是经过Tazo的改良。。真正的拉茶还要放牛奶，在印度，不同的地域对加入的香料种类数量也有不同。。我也不一定喝的来呢

周末和宝宝走在downtown的一条被我忘记名字的街上，也许叫叉餐厅一条街。我还蛮想进入试试的。宝宝很不解，说我不是不喜欢阿叉嘛。爱屋及乌此时不能成立！谁叫阿三国是香料大国，混入食物刺激味蕾，不能说和川菜有异曲同工之妙但至少和川菜类似的是味道很足，重口味。不考虑脂肪，淀粉，油炸，等恶性因素，口感和味觉就是最最重要的啦

难得周末好天气20多度～我和宝宝坐地铁去downtown玩。。去Gap帮宝宝选了两件长袖衬衣和一条他认为很大叔的裤子。宝宝说他越来越孔卡卡化了。因为我老是按照自己喜欢的样子去帮宝宝选衣服。8过，宝宝穿着增滴好帅噢。。我增的不想在公共场合重复一次我当时真的有心跳加快了~

然后又去逛了逛Club Monaco和Arizia。最近对衣服的见解又有了变化。之前一直追求衣服的质感和设计。后来觉得女生还是花样比较多可以换来换去，经济实惠比较好。现在又回归最开始的想法。You are what you wear。穿好看的衣服，出门都会很开心～。便宜的衣服破破烂烂的，洗两水就没样子了，穿在身上都感觉自己很cheap。到最后也破罐子破摔，把这些衣服给扔掉了。所以说，从最开始就没有好好珍惜他们，越看越不喜欢，到最后也只收得这样的下场。但是话说回来，消费与收入不成正比的行为是可耻的。就如同每天吃泡面都要买LV的姑娘，或者开跑车带小妹子吃大排档是同一个道理。所以，还是等Club Monaco和Arizia打折吧！ 

逛得太忘我，从摩里面出来我们就直奔电影院啦～。。其实是坐街车去的。就是小学都已经看不到被烧油公交车淘汰的那种头上插天线的电车。[第一次］坐街车！上次坐共巴还是。。大三？！

然后我们去看Scott Pilgram VS The World。多伦多拍的。看到很多熟悉的画面，CN tower拉。Second Cup拉。看这个电影感觉像在玩角色扮演游戏一样。

最后我们去Fin居酒屋吃的晚餐～～～[有是第一次］去居酒屋！很像日剧里面那种，上班族下班后聚在一起喝酒吃烤肉的地方！里面摆满了各种青酒，烧酒，梅酒 的 瓶子，还有好多小菜可以点：串烧，烤肉，半熟的刺身。。好好吃噢～～～～和以前去的料理店,buffet都不一样，吃到了以前都没吃到过的小食，并且色泽味美，喝红脸的小宝宝看起来好可爱～哈哈哈哈哈。。。下次还要去！

外面飘落起小雨，我们两个都喝得热乎乎的～勾肩搭背的朝地铁站走去～

一天都使用公共交通，感觉自己好environmental friendly噢～哈哈哈哈哈哈

不停在想应该怎么布置怎么摆放最美观最能利用空间～好鸡冻啊

今天去和中介签合同，在申请人那栏写着好长一串字 是我和宝宝的名字。感觉有点陌生还有点兴奋。似乎就要真正开始亲自主导自己的未来了，为经营我们的小家大步努力 。。

但阴暗面是：我也提前步入中年师奶茶米酱醋蜗居一族。只好挥泪正式向过去没昼没夜 没心没肺 没计划 随心所欲 开支大于收入 感觉什么都无所谓 天塌下来也和我没关系的娇小姐日子挥手别别～

。。。闪人。。

假设我可以活到80岁

假设可以提前透支接下来57个生日愿望

我希望接下来的57年都可以和你一起度过

有自己的热爱的小营生 有健康的身体 有皮小蛋跑来跑去 或者趴在旁边瞪着大眼睛洞察他的世界

无论在哪里 做些什么 有开心 有低落 都不重要

和你在一起 活在当下

就是最好的礼物

缘份慢慢将我们紧靠 从那个瞬间开始 我开始相信你就是我的那个他

从来没有这么确定过 似乎找到了另一个自己 

除了默默无语 深深感激命运把你赐给我以外 说什么天设地造 情投意合 都显得苍白无力

遇到你有一种似曾相识 或者一见如故的感觉 原来 原来 23年来要等待到人就是你

宝贝 我不是最美的花朵 口袋也空空 似乎脑壳也有点呆 不大懂得人们说的虚假做作 也不知道什么叫不温不火  

唯一财富也不过是一颗真心  和那些还没有去实现的梦想

宝贝 我们有好多好多事要一起做 好长好长的路要一起走 要一起看皮小蛋长大 一起想飞到哪里就去哪里降落  一起去看透美丽的风景 和你细水长流 

相信 你就是那个 和我一起谱写人生的那个人

不管会发生什么 你会大风车 我会放空，会莫名其妙的感伤，会哭会累会长痘痘会变丑变邋遢会粘着你不放会让你讨厌

我都have faith in you, and us 

我一直以为 我是孤独的 

在遥远的行星上

一个人生活 一个人唱歌

流完了最后一滴泪

准备把悲伤告别

别还年撒的面包屑

趁昨天重来之前

我陪你到世界的终结

就算倒了都要在你身边

要陪你到世界的终结 

我们拥抱着相信的死穴

你就是绝对天造的美学

一切的一切 都要为你改写